Two dilemmas in one , please help me understand all this..?

Uh, are you a tomboy? If so, you need a fabulous make over. (Go to an upscale Spa for the best make over. Learn how to apply make up). You need to start looking more like a feminine girl, and behaving like a really feminine kind of girl. Don't compete with guys and don't be their "buddy." They won't take you seriously if you're their best buddy. So hon, what you have to do is re-invent yourself... shed your old image and become "the new girl in town."